Rose Water Witch

not your typical patch of flowers

We were grabbing a bite of lunch at a small cafe, in a mall, right across from a booth that sold jewelry and where ears could be pierced for a fee. A mother approaches with a little girl of six or seven years old. The little girl is clearly stating that she doesn’t want her ears pierced, that’s she’s afraid of how much it will hurt, that she doesn’t like earrings much in the first place. Her protests, her clear ‘no’ is simply not heard. The mother and two other women, who work the booth, begin chatting and trying to engage the little girl in picking out a pair of earrings. She has to wear a particular kind when the piercing is first done but she could pick out a fun pair for later.

"I don’t want my ears pierced."

"I don’t want any earrings."

The three adults glance at each other conspiratorially and now the pressure really begins. She will look so nice, all the other girls she knows wear earrings, the pain isn’t bad.

She, the child, sees what’s coming and starts crying. As the adults up the volume so does she, she’s crying and emitting a low wail at the same time. “I DON’T WANT MY EARS PIERCED.”

Her mother leans down and speaks to her, quietly but strongly, the only words we could hear were ‘… embarrassing me.’

We heard, then, two small screams, when the ears were pierced.

Little children learn early and often that ‘no doesn’t mean no.’

Little children learn early that no one will stand with them, even the two old men looking horrified at the events from the cafeteria.

Little girls learn early and often that their will is not their own.

No means no, yeah, right.

Most often, for kids and others without power, ”no means force.”

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from "No Means Force" at Dave Hingsburger’s blog.

This is important. It doesn’t just apply to little girls and other children, though it often begins there.

For the marginalized, our “no’s” are discounted as frivolous protests, rebelliousness, or anger issues, or we don’t know what we’re talking about, or we don’t understand what’s happening.

When “no means force” we become afraid to say no.

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whovianfeminism:

egriz:

Regeneration outtake.

(Disclaimer: I love Capaldi)

THIS IS MY FAVORITE THING.

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twelves-impossible-girl:

notsomolly:

“Eccleston was a tiger and Tennant was, well, Tigger. Smith is an uncoordinated housecat who pretends that he meant to do that after falling off a piece of furniture.” — Steven Moffat

I think we all know who that makes Capaldi.

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This is the best thing I’ve ever seen in my life.

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cyprith:

I challenge all of my followers to stop blogging for the next six minutes and do this instead.

Do it right now. Just bust it out. You totally can. It’s really quick and fun. If you’re anything like me, your abs will kill you for trying it, but you can absolutely stick through six minutes. And afterwards, as an added bonus, you’ll feel amazing because you survived.

Then you can reblog it and challenge your followers, too!

 

katiedidlikecrazy:

Anthony Head does the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge

YAAAAAAAASSSSSS!!!! YAAAAAAAASSSS!!!

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http://branwyn-says.tumblr.com/post/95816482830/teland-italy-curl-piertotum-locomottor

teland:

italy-curl:

piertotum-locomottor:

breadmaakesyoufat:

breadmaakesyoufat:

i was talking to a guy and he said “if there were no laws you could be raped at any point of the day” and i replied with “yeah and i could retaliate by stabbing the rapist, hey i mean there…

amburdoll:

canyoushipit:

darkxbunnyprincess:

This is one of my favorite childhood stories.

WHAT THE FUCK

I loved these books

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threedollarwine:

crystalmethalicious:

I don’t think people realise how hard it is to re-discover the person you were before depression or even try to remember your own personality

and if you’ve had depression since early childhood you don’t even know if you have your own personality

you didn’t have time to be a person before depression

and it’s scary having no idea who you are

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straighttohelvetica:

the-goddamazon:

blacksupervillain:

White people are ghouls

Savages.

This bothered me all morning. The idea that I live near people like this has been hanging over me for weeks and has literally leeched the energy and spirit from me. 
But when I went to Google to learn more about what happened, it turned out that the bar was not advertising this. Instead, a customer wrote it and he was then thrown out the bar and banned for life.
The bar owner went on to say that he had a half-black son.

And that they ”drove through Ferguson yesterday and [he] … would be the last person to joke about Michael Brown.”
This alone doesn’t fix things. Someone still wrote those awful things on that sign. But hearing the rest of this story does make me feel a little less terrible.
Because what I really need to see more of right now is proof that people aren’t as awful as I’m starting to believe they are.

straighttohelvetica:

the-goddamazon:

blacksupervillain:

White people are ghouls

Savages.

This bothered me all morning. The idea that I live near people like this has been hanging over me for weeks and has literally leeched the energy and spirit from me. 

But when I went to Google to learn more about what happened, it turned out that the bar was not advertising this. Instead, a customer wrote it and he was then thrown out the bar and banned for life.

The bar owner went on to say that he had a half-black son.

And that they ”drove through Ferguson yesterday and [he] … would be the last person to joke about Michael Brown.”

This alone doesn’t fix things. Someone still wrote those awful things on that sign. But hearing the rest of this story does make me feel a little less terrible.

Because what I really need to see more of right now is proof that people aren’t as awful as I’m starting to believe they are.

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coelasquid:

Whenever people point to Mary Shelley and say “a woman invented sci-fi you know” I just think “well, I mean, technically a woman invented the whole concept of authoring books as far as we can tell but hey who’s keeping track”

(Source: Wikipedia, via cyprith)